This is exactly how parents of a left hander should react. Read on…..


Mid afternoon I get a call from pre-primary school, asking to meet them personally before the school gets over. With lots of worries I went.

I was waiting to hear some complaints but some unusual words hit my ears. I was shocked.

Teacher: Malvika is left handed writer?

Me: So what’s the matter? What has she done? (I uttered with a deep sigh.)

Teacher: You must make her write with the right hand instead of left. Otherwise she will be in a big trouble. Too much pressure will fall on her heart. She will be slow, won’t be able to complete her day to day activities. Do you understand?


I went numb, couldn’t think anything beyond.

I observed Malvika , day and night for 8 days, from all dimensions critically. Later with the discussion, with my in-laws they said…It’s OK. Why to worry? Even her dadaji (Grad Father) is left handed, and he is doing fantastic.

I was a little relieved then.

Then came the second call of her teacher, in fact this time the principal wanted to meet us. With a lot of Concern and care they were explaining us about her left handed “Problem”.

I said, “Mam let her be on her own. It’s by birth, inherited and I think we shouldn’t interfere. Whatever side effects or ill effects we’ll take responsibility of it. Thanks for your concern.”

I think that was our first bold decision towards our parenting. We kept observing her and allowed her to perform as she feels comfortable. No pressure. We played a lot of games, tearing newspapers, puzzles, worksheets etc…

She does half of her activities with her right and until 11yrs of age, she also wrote with her right and left both.

There are so many myths regarding a lefty! But it’s all in a positive direction for us now. We are proud parents of a left hander.


By: Dr Bharati Mehta (Psychologist)

  1. I am the mother of a 6-year-old boy. At the beginning of his young age, he used to write with both left and right hand. As I had pressure to make it right hand, I started observing him. I felt even though he wrote with the right hand it was very messy and he was so focussed but with the left hand, he drew and wrote very comfortable and I felt happy. Later on, I came to know that my husband’s family had a trait of leafiness but it was corrected when they were small. I understood it was inherited. Also, due to many reasons at our home, my son had language issues and his bathroom training was also not proper. Between the age of 4 and 5, he was facing many issues and I could see he was stressed. He became so shy, he wouldn’t face anyone. The only time I saw him happy was when he was actually drawing with his left hand. So, I didn’t pressure him. By six years, many of his problems moved away. He started becoming very expressive, he is very musical centred, he memorized many meaningful concepts. All is going fine BUT now as he became a lefty, he is having issues at school. He is not able to share the same table as with his right-handed kids. Again, the pressure is back on me but I don’t want him to suffer that. I want him to be normal like any other kid but I am not sure till when I will be able to back him up. I hope buying him a left-handed pencil might be a starting help………

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